The 3 Things You Need In Your Backpack Before Trying To Escape “The Friend Zone”
A mirror, a watch, and some tums.
The “Friend Zone” refers to a situation where one person in a friendship has romantic feelings towards the other, but those feelings are not reciprocated. It sucks to be here.
Being “friend-zoned” can be frustrating and painful, but it’s important to remember that everyone has the right to have their own feelings and boundaries. If you’re interested in getting out of the friend zone, there are a few things you need to bring before taking any action:
# 1 A Mirror…
Yes, you like her/him. But be honest with yourself. Do you see her only as a challenge, or do you want to be in a real relationship with her?
Ask some harder questions: Do you like her because she’s the one in front of you, and you’re always together?
Consider whether you are truly interested in a romantic relationship with this person or if you are just looking to be in a relationship…with anyone…and she happens to be there.
If it’s the latter, it may be worth examining your own motivations.
I suggest Netflix…
#2 A watch
Fast forward your imagination. Let’s say you succeed.
You’ve successfully made her your girlfriend.
Now what?
Are you mature enough to be in a relationship with her?
Are you ready for the jealousy, fights, and duties of being in a committed relationship?
Would it even be a healthy relationship?
Again, be honest with yourself. (At least you owe yourself that.) Be aware that your romantic feelings might really cloud your judgment, because…he, who wouldn’t want to be her boyfriend, right?!
After 20 seconds of deep reflection…get ready your tums.
#3 Some tums.
There will be a day of reckoning. So you must have the stomach for it.
Here is some hard-to-stomach truth: THIS IS AN UPHILL BATTLE.
The other person may not be interested in you romantically.
Trying to convince them to change their mind or pressuring them in any way is unlikely to work and may even damage the friendship. It’s important to respect the other person’s feelings and decisions.
Believe her/him when she says, “I don’t wanna hurt your feelings but…”
Believe everything she says after that.
Take your tums.
Good luck!
